Mary Wesley

Just your (a)typical, (un)reserved, lil 'ol queer therapist who is determined to decimate the abusive gatekeeping practices and harmful barriers restricting access to safe, life-saving gender affirming care. Clients call me the "Vigilante Therapist" because I'll go “Above and beyond to help where others won’t” by aiming to eliminate the barriers that people face to accessing services, looking at the full picture to get to the root of issues, and providing a realistic understanding and flexibility that allows my clients to maintain control over their therapeutic experience. I'm devoted to providing safe, affirming tele-therapy for LGBTQIA2S+ youth and adults in OH and MI (at the time of service). I also specialize in referral letters for Gender Affirming Services for all ages. I am a therapist who is kink, sex worker, and poly-affirming and in my free time can be found giving back to my community by volunteering with various LGBTQIA2S+ organizations. I partner with multiple harm reduction programs to provide alternative access to safe-use supplies of every type. I recognize the trauma caused by our typical public 'safety' systems, as well as by other clinicians in the medical and mental health fields. I also understand the great importance of focusing on safer alternatives whenever possible. I acknowledge that you are the expert on you. I recognize my privilege and am mindful of biases and welcome correction and constructive criticism. I am committed to listening to my community, continually learning, and adapting accordingly to provide the safest care possible. I'm a queer neuro-spicy, female, with a deeply personal DNA-invested connection to the Trans community. I am laid back and go with the flow. I wear my tattoos, piercings, and rainbows with pride and am known to curse like a sailor. I also am habitually, unapologetically outspoken and loud when up against injustice. My clients will tell you that I am not your average therapist. I utilize an eclectic, LGBTQIA2S+ affirming, trauma-informed approach while focusing on providing a safe virtual environment that feels more relaxed and welcoming than clinical. I aim for therapy to be something people look forward to, not just another thing they have to do. I am not the workbook type of therapist; I am out of the box, unconventional, and as my clients say, "anything but normal" .